You Are Not the Problem
Late-Diagnosed ADHD Women and the Invisible Forces That Shape Us
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I want you to remember you are not the problem.
ADHD in women is still widely misunderstood which often makes navigating the world as an ADHD woman exhausting and filled with shame. Why do I find things so challenging that other women do with ease? Why can't I get anywhere on time?
Drawing on her professional experience within the ADHD community as well as her work with late-diagnosed ADHD women, Liz Lewis is here to put these anxieties to rest. She reveals the hidden costs of masking and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, navigating relationships and motherhood, and the impossible "Triple Bind" that demands women excel in all domains while appearing effortlessly perfect.
Using stories, science, cultural analysis and humour to examine the influence of ADHD, this book can help you question the beliefs and expectations that have hindered you and encourage you reclaim space. This isn't a manual for "fixing" yourself - it's a roadmap for understanding your neurological differences with compassion.
ADHD in women is still widely misunderstood which often makes navigating the world as an ADHD woman exhausting and filled with shame. Why do I find things so challenging that other women do with ease? Why can't I get anywhere on time?
Drawing on her professional experience within the ADHD community as well as her work with late-diagnosed ADHD women, Liz Lewis is here to put these anxieties to rest. She reveals the hidden costs of masking and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, navigating relationships and motherhood, and the impossible "Triple Bind" that demands women excel in all domains while appearing effortlessly perfect.
Using stories, science, cultural analysis and humour to examine the influence of ADHD, this book can help you question the beliefs and expectations that have hindered you and encourage you reclaim space. This isn't a manual for "fixing" yourself - it's a roadmap for understanding your neurological differences with compassion.
- Published: Jun 18 2026
- Pages: 224
- ISBN: 9781839977947
Press Reviews
Brooke Schnittman, ADHD Coach, Coach Trainer & Founder, Coaching with Brooke
This book says what ADHD women have felt but were never allowed to name. Liz Lewis is fearless, honest, and deeply validating, challenging outdated narratives while offering compassion without sugarcoating. A necessary read.
Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Founder, www.FINDtheADHDgirls.org
I loved this book and am happy to recommend it. Liz writes like she's your wise, informed best friend. She engagingly and honestly describes the challenges women with ADHD have in every stage of life. If you're looking for a book easy on the eyes and food for your soul, this is it.
Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S., author of “Overcoming the Wall of Awful” and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast
The male-centered lens of ADHD has needed to be expanded for decades. In "You Are Not The Problem", Liz Lewis does just that. She explores what it is like to grow up as a woman with ADHD from both a personal and expert perspective, discussing such topics as the reasons for, and impact of, late diagnosis in women, ADHD and the feminine ideal, ADHD's effect on relationships (both romantic and platonic), even hormones and perimenopause. And as proof of Liz's expertise, it's an ADHD-friendly read. If you are a woman with late diagnosed ADHD, or love someone who is, buy this book!
Joyce Cooper-Kahn, Ph.D., Co-Author of Late, Lost and Unprepared: A Parent’s Guide to Helping Children with Executive Functioning, 2nd Edition, and Boosting Executive Skills in the Classroom: A Practical Guide for Educators
After years of struggling to meet expectations and feeling invisible, women diagnosed with ADHD as adults will finally feel seen and understood. Liz Lewis' must-read book is like a conversation over coffee with a knowledgeable friend, offering compassion, depth and humor.