Dr John Holland, educational psychologist specialising in loss and bereavement
The author uses her wealth of experiences, and research to capably guide the reader through the maze that is perfectionism in this well researched and much needed book. Preconceptions are challenged, associated risks explained and light thrown on an area with little reference material, importantly making the crucial link to mental health, and providing helpful practical strategies for working with young people.
Angela Powell, secondary school teacher of mathematics
An inspiring book on the difference between perfectionism and optimalism. The interesting case studies introduce different behaviours of perfectionism displayed by people and how certain feedback to students can seem positive but can actually be damaging to the student. Contained in the book are excellent strategies for both young people and the adults working with them to help become a more healthy optimalist. Dawn Starley has taught me that good enough is perfectly okay.
Dr Rob Green, Somerset Educational Psychology Service and Educational Psychology Programme Director, University of Bristol
This is an important book for young people, families, schools and anyone interested in children's development. I am always impressed with work that shines a light on neglected problems. Dawn Starkey has done more than that - she has also offered practical, useful and creative ideas to address the problems of perfectionism.
Dr Starley has written a book which, with some relief, will flick a light switch on for many parents. The negative aspects of perfectionism often go unseen and this book will enable parents to make sense of increasingly serious and puzzling aspects of their child's behaviour, especially if they also have another diagnosis. Dr Starley writes with authority, based in her research and experiences of working with young people, as well as with compassion, outlining ways in which parents and carers can support their children moving forward.